Does Shyness even Exist?

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by: GabrielAngelo
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Date: Sat, 5 Mar 2011 Time: 3:52 AM
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What is shyness? Does shyness exist?

In my opinion, there is really no such thing as shyness. Shyness is just a limiting self-belief that was made up to justify your lack of social success, because you were not socially skilled, and thus you gave yourself the labe that you were shy.

For folks who are shy, I believe that as when they were like most little kids, they were naturally carefree, playful, opened about everything, unbridled (except by the parents), and "shyness" just wasn't in their dictionary.

But as they grew up, something occurred that started the source of their reservedness, either result of family, other kids picking on them, or whatever it was that started it. That diminished their desire to be social, and consequently they never learned proper social skills as a youngster.

Every time they allowed themselves in social interactions, they weren't enjoying it compared other people because they were not as skilled socially, and eventually have social anxiety and so avoided interacting with people as much as possible but told themselves they were just shy to justify it.

Look not everybody were fortunate enough to be raised in a positive supportive environment where it was conducive to interact with others, either it may have been our influence from our friends, immediate atmosphere, parents controlling us or over-sheltering us, etc.

But whatever the case may be, when you possess the right skill sets and your social toolbox stocked with social mojo such as your stories and your witty one-liner repertoires (can be refer to as your sociability), you will instinctively be comfortable and confident in your social setting.

The reason why you feel any negative emotion is a result of you haven't socialized enough before and not exposed to it, it is foreign; therefore, don't have the right skill sets built up throughout experience to manage it.

When your mind is given the tools and you have loads of social arsenals under your belt, that social discomfort will cease to exist because you know what to do.

About the Author

Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your "social skills" to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women...but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.

For more information, please visit http://www.socialnatural.com.